Why Law Of Attraction Is Overrated

Why Law Of Attraction Is Overrated

The Law of Attraction: everybody has at least heard something about it on the internet. This theory has been around for a while now, but I feel like the hype surrounding it is now bigger than ever. I used to be a firm believer in the law of attraction. Although I still believe in the law of attraction to some extent, I discovered some downsides to this theory as well. I did some reading recently that really changed my perspective when it comes to this way of thinking. I realized that law of attraction is an overrated theory, with a strong Western perspective, and a unhealthy & unrealistic view on life. Want to know why I changed my mind and what caused it? Definitely keep reading and watch my latest video down below!

 

I definitely recommend you watching this video first before formulating your own opinion on this topic. I explain everything in detail there, but I will also talk a bit about it here. If you enjoyed this video, don't forget to subscribe to my Youtube channel as well.

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1. WHAT IS LAW OF ATTRACTION?


So before I'm going to explain to you why I think law of attraction is overrated, I'm first briefly going to talk about what law of attraction actually is. The Law of Attraction is actually part of a bigger philosophical movement, called the New Thought movement. This is a movement that origined in the 19th century in the United States. The main idea of the New Thought (also Higher Thought) movement is that "like energy attracting like energy". This means that positive thinking attracts positive energy, and that negative thinking attracts negative energy. This is their most common notion that most people are familiar with. However, they also believe that infinite Intelligence, or God, is everywhere and that its spirit is the totality of all real things. They argue that true human selfhood is divine, and that its divine thought is a force for good. They also believe that sickness originates in the mind, and that "right thinking" has a healing effect.

In short, this means that if we would live our lives by the law of attraction, we should all strive to think positive, ban all negative thoughts out of our lives, and that if we encounter any negativity it is due to our own negative thinking.

 

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"What you think, you create. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you become."

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"Life has ups, yes, but a lot of downs too. It's in those hard moments we really get to know ourselves and our values, we experience growth and become stronger. Life isn't only positive, it shouldn't be depicted that way and we shouldn't even strive to that."

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2. THE IMPORTANCE OF NEGATIVITY


This made me wonder: what is so wrong with negativity? Is negativity really as bad and as unwanted as we think it is? Should we really avoid all types of negative thinking, always and forever? Law of attraction portrays this notion that our lives should only be positive, and that anything related to negativity is bad. But life isn't like that. Life has ups, yes, but a lot of downs too. And especially those down moments are usually the ones that formed us to the human beings we are now. It's in those hard moments we really get to know ourselves and our values, we experience growth and become stronger. Life isn't only positive, it shouldn't be depicted that way and we shouldn't even strive to that. There is a lot of value in negativity, and law of attraction just completely ignores that.

Using law of attraction can also make you feel anxious for thinking 'negative thoughts'. You will create this fear of thinking negatively, because you don't want to attract bad things into your life. Especially when something awful happened to you, you will feel like you have to 'avoid' thinking about it and just try to ignore the fact that it ever happened. It will also make you feel like you are 'responsible' for this bad event in your life, even if you didn't have anything to do with it; your negative thoughts made it happen. This will counteract the process of self-reflection and healing, because you are forced to ignore that side of your life. So, that's why opening up yourself to negativity, being okay with being not okay and giving yourself time to reflect on yourself is very important. And in my opinion law of attraction completely neglects this.

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3. TAOISM AS THE ANSWER


To explain my view even further, I like to use Lao Tse's famous Tao Te Ching. He was an ancient Chinese philosopher and the founder of the philosophical Taoism. In the book Tao Te Ching, Lao Tse explains the Tao as the ultimate source and ideal of all existence. Tao is an extremely hard word to translate, but it's usually defined as 'the way' or a some sort of 'force of nature'. Lao Tse thought that Tao is the path that we need to follow during our lives. When he describes Tao, it's actually quite interesting: he doesn't describe it as one path, but as the one and the other. Tao is not an unity, but two different sides: good and bad, positive and negative, etc. If we would only focus on one side, for example the positive, 'law of attraction' side, we would ignore the other side of our Tao, which in this case is the more negative side. Still, it is just as part of our Tao as the other 'good' side.

Another point that I want to discuss is the fact that law of attraction makes this clear distinction between positive and negative. Something is either good or bad. And while the notion of the Tao has also this idea of the one and the other, it is not presented as a very distinct line. Good and bad are actually fluent. The best way to visualize this is by yin and yang: if you look at the yin and the yang, you see a white part (which symbolizes the positive side) and the black part (which symbolizes the negative side). However, even in the white, positive part, there is a dot of blackness, of negativeness to be found. Same counts for the black, negative side, where there is also a white, positive dot to be found. So, the Tao claims that there isn't a strict distinction between the positive and the negative, which completly against the vision presented in law of attraction.

When we follow our Tao, we could reach Te. Te means the manifested Tao. If we follow our path, we gain a certain power or good, because we are following the path that we need to follow. When this happens, we gain total harmony. And that's exactly what we need to strive for, instead of a completely positive life as the law of attraction proclaims. It's okay to be not okay, because being not okay is just as big of a part in our lives as being fine. It's unhealthy and unrealistic to be only thinking positively. Our path contains two sides and we should pursue both of them, not force ourselves to ignore half of it. Only by accepting the good and the bad, we will gain a life filled with harmony. And that's why, in my opinion, law of attraction is overrated.

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I hope you enjoyed reading this philosophical article on my blog. Honestly, I was planning on only giving you a brief written description of everything I said in the video, but this turned out to be even more detailed and accurate than my video, haha! I would love to know your thoughts on this topic as well, so don't be shy and leave them in the comments down below!

WHAT DO YOU THINK OF THE LAW OF ATTRACTION?

xo Lilia

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10 Comments

  1. May 23, 2017 / 12:28

    I found this a very interesting interpretation of the Law of attraction.
    At the moment, I am studying philosophy as a subject of my Bachelor of Arts degree.
    I agreed with your point about the need for negativity. It is so important to have that ying yang balance in all formats of life.

    I love your videos, I find them so inspiring and your blog is so beautiful and creative.
    When I get some money I hope to achieve the same sort of design and quality of the site and the work.
    beautiful

    From La in Australia

  2. A
    June 4, 2017 / 20:49

    I’ve never really been a fan of the law of attraction. I understand it’s purpose and how it can be true in a sense for some people, especially to people who’s basis in life surrounds through beliefs in place of the logical. For me, I’m a person who is stuck in between believing there is more to life in the world than what we see, a person that believes in what comes around goes around, what you give is what you get, etc, as well as the ultra logical view that some things really are just logically simple and things don’t have to have the ulterior motive of the universe beyond it’s purpose. So in the end, I feel like a lot of things in philosophy instead of being ways of life are more like guidelines to find your own. And years and years of reading through different religions and philosophical points of views, I feel content with disagreeing with the law of attraction. We live in an unpredictable world no matter how much sense we want to make of things. It doesn’t matter how much good karma you collect, sometimes you will still end up with the short end of the stick. A negative and cynical view point in life isn’t ideal at all, but believing that every thought you think of will make your outcome better or worse really isn’t healthy either. Soooooo many people in the world are afraid of things they don’t understand, and alot of that fear comes from fearing it’s negative outcomes. We spend our lives trying so hard to attract the good that when the bad comes knocking, we wonder “why? I was a good person, I tried so hard to be positive and happy and I just had happy thoughts, why did this happen?” and in the end we just end up being unhappier thinking that it doesn’t matter how hard we work, we will probably still only have bad things happen anyway. I’ve seen so many people lose their ways because of one really bad situation. This is where we start to form our own philosophies in life. Taking into consideration the wisdom from other people’s philosophy, we ourselves can start to see and break away from all that mentality in the world. We start to break away from the mindset that things are only ever meant to be in black and white, positive and negative with a little grey area in between, and we can start to give our own color instead, especially as your own mind develops/ And in the end, you become the ideal person you were meant to be. But none of that can happen so long as your mind is set into believing only one certain kind of belief. I think the true philosophy of life is in the form of taking every day as it is, as in, if you have a good day, enjoy your good day, if you have a bad day, even if you don’t enjoy it, get through it, just because you can. You can think of all the beautiful words written in literature and if you don’t apply them to your every day life, then there really is no point of remembering them when you’re at your worst. It’s there, it’s already happened and it will most likely happen again. Every day you will live for the rest of your life is up to you in the end. And we’re the ones that have to choose how every day will be spent, not just a few words that say we’re magnets of our own destiny lol

    Love your blog and vids! (Sorry this was so long)

    • June 9, 2017 / 11:11

      Loved reading your view on this topic <3

  3. Rachel
    June 23, 2017 / 03:56

    To begin, I am only 15 years old, so I have much to come in my life. I love how you presented the case of Yin and Yang and you stated, “However, even in the white, positive part, there is a dot of blackness, of negativeness to be found. Same counts for the black, negative side, where there is also a white, positive dot to be found.” That really put me into your shoes/perspective of things. Truthfully, I love the Law of Attraction mainly due to the “If you think and claim positive things, you will receive them.” But is that all I need? In order for me to depict from good and bad, we need a source of negativity in our lives. And that’s where you also stated, “Good and bad are actually fluent.” I believe this part 100% as well! As always though, I give my thoughts to God!

    I enjoyed and understand this particular philosophical article of yours.

    • August 9, 2017 / 12:58

      Aw thank you <3

  4. Vania
    July 25, 2017 / 08:38

    You have completely changed my perspective about law of atraction, I used to be an absolut follower of this ideal, I think we all need a balance in our lifes, everything happens for a reason and if we want to go ahead we need to understad the situation we are going thru and why we are living that, it´s not always easy to change your mind about something that has changed you in some way, but I always keep my mind open to learn something new and especially if it´s something as interesting as this.

    Thank you so much for this article, and for sharing your knowledge, wish you well!

    • August 9, 2017 / 13:14

      Glad to hear Vania <3

  5. sherif
    September 24, 2017 / 18:44

    i totally agree with you, if we don’t fail and don’t live hard times we will never learn, and never know life, we cannot build our personality w cannot even take choices, so i think that negativity is necessery for our psychological balance !

    • October 2, 2017 / 11:52

      Glad you agree <3

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