There's something about the annual 1st of January that makes me feel like I can re-start this year with a blank slate. I know most new year's resolutions are quite cliché, and nine out of the ten times do not last longer than the first week of February, but I still like to set some goals for myself each year. I think it is essential to write them down in order to self-reflect on your path. That is why I also want to share if I actually did or did not achieved the goals I set out for myself previous year.
MY GOALS FOR 2017
BE OKAY WITH BEING ALONE
Check. Setting - let alone achieving - this goal really took me by surprise. To be honest, I completely forgot about even having this goal in the first place, but that just comes to show how important it is to actually write down what you're thinking in order to reflect on your growth. At the beginning of 2017, I was really struggling with the feeling of loneliness after a bad break-up I experienced. Yes I had friends, yes I was independent, yes I didn't need a guy to make me feel happy, but still: I felt like something was missing. Instead of trying to find a replacement (which I tried to do at first, but really did not work out), I decided that I had to focus on myself first. I needed to do things that would broaden my horizons and teach me that I could do anything I wanted - even if I was alone. Moving to Washington DC was definitely that thing for me in 2017. Even though I felt lonely sometimes as well there, I feel completely comfortable on my own there. I've learned to love being by myself, for real now. And yes, I feel really proud about that.
BE MORE CONSCIOUS ABOUT MY HEALTH
Unfortunately, no check. In 2017, I pretty much sucked at being healthy. I often skipped multiple (!) meals a day, did not work out that much, and also did not get enough sleep. This may come as a surprise to a lot of you, but trust me: my life is far from perfect. Running a business and being in law school can become so time consuming that I just literally do not have the time or energy to eat, work out or sleep. However, I do know that these things are so essential, so I should try to be more conscious about them in 2018 as well.
BELIEVE IN MYSELF (EVEN MORE)
Check? I find it hard to decide if I really succeeded with this goal or not. Although I do believe that I am now way more confident and secure about myself as a person than previous years, I did create some new doubts. Most of my doubts are focused on law school, my career as an online influencer, and my future in general. However, I do feel like I have grown a lot and this made me believe in myself even more. So I guess it's a partial check?
Pass my Master in Law Cum Laude.
Check. Although my Research Master in Law (LL.M.) is 2 years, I managed to pass all my courses I took this year cum laude. However, I didn't finish the full first year, because I was doing Philosophy (B.A.) as a double degree, and obviously also moved abroad to study at George Washington University Law School. That means I still need to put in some effort, but I believe that I will be able to finish my Master degree cum laude this time.
FIND A BALANCE
No check. I feel like 2017 was a very messy year when it comes to my inner balance. Finding a good balance in my life has been always my most constant struggle in life. I am pretty sure it has to do something with my zodiac being a libra. I had to experience so many changes, and it was difficult for me to adjust to them every time. Obviously, moving to DC was the biggest change of all, and it definitely took me the full semester to get used to my new environment and slowly create a routine again. Combining university, my business, a social life, and being healthy is always hard. However, I hope I will do it better next year.
FIND A BALANCE
Even though I seem to be repeating myself a bit with this goal, I really want to focus on finding a balance in my life again this year. Despite the fact that it was one of my goals for 2017, I did not feel like it was a real priority of mine. With the many changes I experienced that year, it almost seemed impossible to not live in an organized mess. I guess finding a balance is kind of my constant struggle - probably due to the fact that libra is my zodiac. Of course, most of you know that I am a very organized person, but even an organized person has difficulties with finding a balance if their environment is changing all the time. However, this year I really want to create an efficient routine for myself that will make me more productive, less stressed, and hopefully very happy.
PRIORITIZE MY HEALTH
Another goal that I made for myself previous year, but also want to prioritize this year: My health. I've been really struggling with properly taking care of myself. With the hectic lifestyle of being in law school and running my own business, my health became quite a low priority this year - very bad, I know. That is why I want to start working out again (figure skating + dancing), eating regularly, and sleeping more in 2018. Because a fit body means a fit mind. 😉
FOCUS ON KEEPING MY INNER PEACE
Keeping my inner peace is one of the most valuable lessons I've learned in 2017. It made me realize that being frustrated, disappointed or sad with someone only made me feel hurt - not them. When someone is treating you poorly, kill them with kindness. Do not let their bad behaviour influence your own. In 2018 I want to incorporate this lesson I have learned about keeping my inner peace more into my everyday life.
BE MORE EFFICIENT WITH MY TIME
I think that this is one of my most important, yet difficult goals I want to achieve in 2018: Being more efficient with my time. With my busy schedule, being productive with my time is key. I want to stop procrastinating by checking my phone or cleaning my apartment, and just truly spend an 1 studying if I have planned it in. Apart from my Supplied by Lily Planner that keeps me organized and efficient with my time, I also have to step my game up and just do it.
BE MORE CONSISTENT WITH MY BLOG, YOUTUBE & SOCIAL MEDIA
Last, but not least I want to become more consistent with my blog, Youtube channel and other social media (again). Being an online influencer (although I prefer to use the term online inspirer) is something that brings me so much happiness and joy. I love creating content for my social media channels, I enjoy interacting with you guys, and I am amazed how many of you I can inspire by showing you my daily life and personal thoughts. However, creating great content is not easy, and its creative process definitely takes time. This made it quite hard for me to stay on top with updating all my social media. However, I truly believe that it is not impossible. So yeah, for 2018 I want to get back on the right track with posting my content regularly.
MY GOALS FOR 2018
Thank you for checking out this blogpost. Sometimes I wonder why you are interested in my personal life. We have never met, yet you know things about me I have never told you. It doesn't really matter what, or how much. It doesn't matter if you follow my life daily, or if you (or should I say I?) just landed on my doorstep. It doesn't matter if you like me or not. The only thing that matters is that there was something, something about me, that sparked your interest.
Maybe that is what I am being good at. Maybe I am one of those people you just have to turn your head for when you walk pass them, just to see a glimpse of them again. Maybe not. In any way, I want to thank you for constantly supporting me. Even if it's just reading what I write, without ever writing me back. You are a constant inspiration for me to keep going. I hope I can do the same for you.
DO YOU HAVE ANY NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS FOR 2018?
P.S. Want to know what I've learned in 2017? Check out this blogpost about my life lessons of 2017 here.
Wat leuk dat je je oude en nieuwe doelen op een rijtje zet en er ook nog eens bijzet of je ze gehaald hebt! Ik vind dat je al een heleboel mooie doelen behaald hebt.
Zelf heb ik er niet zo veel behaald afgelopen jaar, zeker mijn blogdoelen niet.
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Hi! Nice write up❤ I really find this inspiring and helpful. It is indeed stressful to take up a post grad course and balancing everything around it. Good luck with your law degree and conquer 2018!❤
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I enjoyed this post a lot. Made me feel like I need to get my shit together this year. Last year, I survived a war and this year is all about starting all over again. Thank you forninspiring me, Lilia.
Thank you for sharing and supporting me, Ayeesha <3
I love reading you. I feel like I have a friend out there. my goals for 2018 are to focus on my career (medical student), stop worrying about everything and appreciate me more .. and improve my English too! Kisses
i love this kinda posts! xx
hele mooie oude doelen en ook mooie nieuwe doelen. Veel succes!
I´m starting university in January so I feel like I can´t really set goals I just want to survive and have my life together. I´m so nervous but I bought your student desk planner and I hope this will help me to organize the new student life
You’re so inspiring Lilia. I am also trying to find inner balance and also with my work, uni life and social life as well. Self care is one of my priorities and creating more content as well. By the end of 2018 I would like to have developed my personal style without caring of being too extra.
I really wish you all the best
You have accomplished so much! Very impressed with you Uni accomplishments just because I’m struggling a lot with school right now.
You are my inspiration! Good luck in achieving your goals for this year, YOU GOT THIS!
Where did you get the lights hanging on the wall!!! I literally need that in my office ! Please let me know 🙂
I’ve been subscribed to your YouTube channel for about two years now, and one of the things that keeps me coming back is how motivated and how real you are. I really enjoyed reading this post and seeing how you’re constantly pushing forward and improving yourself despite failures. Truly inspirational!
This means so lot to me, thank you Victoria! xo
I am not living my best life. Between you and Lydia Elise Millen the inspiration is certainly there and I hope to soak all of it into my soul radiate some motivational heat in 2018. Thank you for sharing your honest struggles, successes, and awesome creativity and fan friendship. I wish you all the best in the new year. Cheers to attaining more of your goals (especially regarding “self care”).
I love Lydia! Feeling honoured to be an inspiration to you next to her <3
I honestly love your blog layout and your photography! Happy New Year!
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Hey Lilia, you know that I am always reading, even if I don’t answer, right? Even if I know that you prefer true words in comments rather than just a numbers of views in statistics. Anyway you are always inspiring. And yes, we don’t know much about you. But maybe it is IT what make us interested in you? Maybe it is like when we read a book – we want to live, just for a short while, someone else’s live. And like in book – we know only a part of this life. The part which is the most interesting, when the most is happening. I only guess 🙂