Recently I’ve been trying to write shorter posts on my blog. Generally, people like reading shorter articles with more pictures, instead of really detailed blogposts with a lot of text. Same counts for me too. With that being said, I really started missing writing in my usual long, cryptical and personal way on my blog. A couple of things happened in my life recently (or not so recently and I’m still trying to figure them out). One of the ways I like to deal with that sort of stuff is by writing it down. I’ve realised is that a lot of people read my blog. It sounds weird, but for me my blog still feels like my personal diary that maybe 3 people from Australia check every week. Okay lol that sounded weird, but I hope you understand what I mean. My mind is blown when I realize that more than 20.000 people every month read my blog. Some of those people, are actually people that kinda know me. I don’t know if they do this because they genuinely like my blog or because they’re just interested in me (doing their research and shit). Either way, I felt like some things were too personal for me to write on my blog. I didn’t want those people to read my personal thoughts. It’s way easier to imagine your blog is only being read by a couple of strangers if you know what I mean. But I still wanted to do it. To calm my urge, I even picked up my Tumblr game again, to be able to write anonymously again, which I haven’t done for years.
Anyways, with that being said, it didn’t feel right. It was nice to be able to write things down without anybody reading them that I wouldn’t like. But one of the main reasons why I write these things is to help others. There must be somebody in this world that’s going through the same shit as me and with reading my experiences, I can maybe help so they won’t make the same mistakes I did. So that’s why I always want to share things like these instead of keeping it private. So today you can expect a really personal post. Probably my most personal blogpost so far.
Okay, sorry for this long intro, but I just really wanted to explain this. Now onto the reason why I’m writing this blogpost: My life lessons of 2015, that will help you in 2016.
Put Law school/university/education first
Let’s start with the most important thing: law school or university. Or any education for that matter. I’ve learned two things this year about this subject. First one is that however you feel or whatever you’re doing, you should always, always, put your education first. Honestly, I’ve learned so much during my years in uni. Not only about law, but about people, organizations, politics, career… If I haven’t been that strong minded about trying to put my education first, I would never knew this stuff. So for 2016: always prioritize your education, whatever it may be. After a couple years you’re done with it and you will regret it if you haven’t given it your all.
… but there’s more to life than that
This is probably one of the most important life lessons I’ve learned in 2015. There’s more to life than law school or uni. My previous years of uni, especially my first one, I was studying non-stop. Okay, of course I also just started my blog back then, I danced, I figure skated, I had a boyfriend and I had some friends, but I didn’t had a life in my city. I felt alone a lot. And although I love being alone, sometimes I missed having the option to just go to a friends’ house and hang out, like I always used to do in high school. This year, everything changed. It has to do quite a lot with the next point I will address in a sec, but I feel like this year I really have my ducks in a row when it comes to my social life. I met a lot of cool people that I genuinely like and trust and that’s pretty rare for me. Trust issues and shit. So for 2016: realize that life isn’t only about education too. Live a little. Do yolo shit. It’s okay.
Get rid of unwanted relationships
Now comes the most interesting part for some of y’all, haha. Let me start with relationships. For my age, I had quite some serious relationships already. I think I should feel blessed about it, ’cause I probably experienced more love than some people have in a whole lifetime. Since I was 15, I’ve always been in pretty serious relationships. This is the first time since years I’m single again for a longer period than just a month. I know, it sounds pretty bad, lol. I’m not gonna lie. It was hard for me to adjust at first. Sometimes I still feel weird about waking up alone or not having that special somebody to call whenever something nice happened to me. With that being said, I feel like I’ve also learned a lot from being single. First of all, I had the time to analyze not only my previous relationships, but also myself. What went wrong? What did I do wrong? What are my weaknesses? How can make myself a better person? I know so many things about myself that I didn’t knew before now. This also means that I now know what I do and don’t want. It’s so easy to just keep ‘hanging’ in old habits instead of really asking yourself if this situation is helping you with your life experience. Looking back at my life, that was probably my biggest mistake. I’ve put so much energy in people that didn’t deserve it, it makes me sick. But there’s nothing I can do about it now. I can only learn from my mistakes. Another thing that I’ve learned is that being single costs a lot less energy and time. I had more time this year, because I wasn’t worrying about my relationship struggles. All this extra time I’ve invested in my friends and myself. It sounds kinda pathetic, but I do see myself as that ‘happy single’ now, haha. And I know next time around, things will be different. So for 2016: get rid of relationships that are more habit than love and try out living for yourself instead of somebody else.
Don’t waste your time on boys
Well, there I said it. I think most boys are dumb. Not meaning this personally, but god damn, why the hell is everything nowadays only about Netflix, chill and fuckboys? Maybe I’m just an oldskool kind of gal, but I’m tired of those kind of guys. I’ve dated quite a lot in 2015 and it taught me one lesson: dating is a fucking waste of time. And you shouldn’t waste your time, especially on boys. ‘Cause time is the most precious gift we have in our lives. And I don’t want to waste any of it on another fuckboy in 2016. So for 2016: stop dating losers, focus on personal growth and education. Don’t waste any minute on guys that don’t deserve it.
… and put all your time in people that do deserve it
Next life lesson of 2015. Despite the huge amount of losers in this world, there also a couple of super awesome bad bitches in it as well. In 2015 I spend a lot of time with my friends. And I loved each and every second of it. I surrounded myself with so many amazing people. Even writing about it makes me smile. I feel so blessed to have those people in my life. Honestly, I’ve become super picky with people that I let in. Yup, trust issues. I want to be able to trust a person 100% before I can be friends. I can’t have it for 50%, 70% or even 90%. It’s all or nothing for me. I see all my friends as my family. And for family, I’m willing to do everything. Having people around you that don’t 100% have your best interest at heart makes that so fucking difficult. That’s why I’m so happy that I finally removed all those fake persons out of my life this year. So for 2016: surround yourself with people that truly deserve your love and you trust 100%. Discard your life of all the dumb idiots.
don’t care about people’s opinions
Last, but definitely not least. In 2015, I was exposed to a lot of opinions from people that I don’t or vaguely know. Some of them were nice, some of them weren’t. People are so quickly to judge you if you put yourself out there. I guess that’s the price you pay for being exposed. Some of these comments were so mean, they fucking shocked me. I just couldn’t believe people would say that stuff about me. How can somebody that never talked to me think all these mean things about me, just because they don’t like my make-up or the way I talk? In what kind of sick world do we live that people don’t care about what we do anymore, but just judge on how you look? Why do people ‘hate’ me even if I have never did anything bad to them? Of course, all this hurt me. But it also made me – super cliché, I know – stronger. I learned to base my self-worth not on the hate that I get, but on my success, achievements and love I get from people. You know, sometimes I get super long emails from fellow law students that thank me for inspiring them. When I read those mails, I always end up crying a bit. It feels surreal that I, just a regular 21-year old girl that has all the typical 21-year old girl struggles too, can inspire others all over the world with my words. This gives me such a strong and positive feeling, that I honestly don’t even care anymore about the people that hate on me. So for 2016: learn to not care about people’s opinions anymore. Base your self-worth and self-love on your success and not on the hate that you get.
Okay damn. I know this was a lot to process. I wonder if anybody actually took the time to read this. If you did, thank you for ‘wasting’ your time on reading this, haha. I hope you kinda liked reading it tho? I would love to know if you found this blogpost helpful and what your biggest life lessons of 2015 were. Were they similar to mine, or completely different? Let me know. Once again, I wanna thank you all for your constant love and support. In 2016 I would love to build a real community of awesome, bad ass people that support eachother rather than hate on everyone and everything. Let’s make that a goal for next year. 😉
Thanks for reading all this personal crap. I would love to know, what’s your life lesson of 2015?