The end of the year has become an analogy for posting curated highlight reels on Instagram, sharing profound wisdom with the world, and announcing if you are either team “new year, new me”, or team “new year, same me” to your followers. However, as cringe-worthy as deducting 365 days to 15 seconds has become, as an ex-philosophy student and pro-overthinker, I’ve always applauded these traditions. Through all its superficiality and overflow of extreme highlight content, this was the only time of the year the majority of people stopped looking for external validation and turned their gaze inward. It’s the nearing of the new year that evokes self-reflection. For once focus on inner work, and the process of thinking in itself becomes trending. Thus, I want to use the end of the year to justify sharing some of my thoughts and life lessons of 2022 with you as well.View Post
My dear reader, Happiness is meant to be experienced; sadness is meant to be written, and read. Maybe it’s my inner Russian cynic or hopeless romantic, but I find it dauntingly difficult to write when I’m happy. There is something about defining happy feelings into words, that seems like defying happiness in itself. In most cases, I would reserve writing to my moments of despair. Filling up notebooks with my fears, sharing my sorrows on Instagram stories, or scrabbling my sadness on the notes app; misery truly loves (written) company. The sole fact of knowing I could express my emotions on (digital) paper made me feel like they were valid, and that my experiences were valid too. Or even more so, that me, existing as an emotive human being in this often inherently inexplicable world, was valid.View Post
The start of the new year is commonly used as an opportunity to reflect on the year you had, and to set goals for the next. Even though I believe self-reflection should be practiced regularly – asking yourself: “Are the actions I fill my life with serving me? Are happiness and content part of my every day? What could I change for me to feel fulfilled?” are simple questions to incorporate into your daily routine – I do find my annual end-of-the-year reflection to hold special sentiment. When self-reflecting about 2020, it’s important to take into account this year was an incredibly turbulent year for everybody. Be compassionate, and kind when looking back at your achievements. The most important thing is that you survived this year – you should be proud of that. I’m excited to close this chapter for good, and start a brand new page for my new goals in 2021. If you’re curious if I achieved the goals I set for myself this year, and what my new goals are for 2021, this blog post is for you.View Post
At the end of every year, I dedicate a blog post to the life lessons I’ve learned in the past 12 months. Even though this has become a familiar routine for me, writing this annual recap felt as different as my go-to outfits recently. Sneakers and loungewear have replaced my usual heels and blazers. I have worn my everyday pair of jeans a hand full of times. My beloved designer handbags have been collecting dust on their dedicated shelves. 2020 managed to turn everything upside down and make day-to-day normalcy feel like something from a romanticized past life. So damn, what a year 2020 has been. It was supposed to be the best chapter of my life. Having a fascination for numerology, 2020 seemed like the perfect numerological year – especially for someone born on 10/10. Instead, this year became one of the toughest challenges I’ve faced. Looking back at everything that happened has made me shed some tears. I have not felt this much anxiety, loneliness & sadness since battling depression in high school, a dark chapter I’m not particularly eager to revisit. 2020 was a tough teacher, and her strict methods and hard wake-up calls will be remembered forever. But it is that often these tough moments end up teaching us the most valuable of lessons. Now more than ever will this annual recap work as a personal catharsis. I am letting go of the pain that 2020 has caused, and only taking the life lessons with me to the next year. So let’s revisit this dark chapter for the last time, and reflect on the wisdom it has taught me, together.View Post
I never believed in the law of attraction this generation holds so dearly. I grew up believing in a different concept. The concept that what comes up, must come down again. The idea of life being both good and bad; yin and yang.
You cannot receive something from life without it taking away something from you as well. If you try to win without losing, you are trying to cheat life. Even the best cheater can’t out-cheat life, or rather death, itself.View Post